To answer your questions…

Since we started telling people that we were planning to homeschool Miss 5, we have noticed a couple of things. Most people are positive, and those who know us best and understand our thinking and how much this means to us are not only positive, but supportive and encouraging and even offering to help by adding their own areas of expertise. We have had a couple of disapproving comments, although not nearly as many as I had anticipated, and a few who are – Im sure – operating under the “If you cant say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” umbrella! Regardless of the initial reaction, the thing that everyone seems to have in common is the questions. So many questions and so much curiosity! So I thought I’d write my first post addressing the most common ones.
Please remember that I am writing about my thoughts, my decision, my family and our lives. We don’t expect that everyone will agree with us, and we don’t claim that our way of doing things is going to be suitable for everyone, or is the only way of doing things. So here goes;

1) So does that mean you hate schools now?
No, it does not mean that we hate schools. We don’t hate schools or teachers or people who send their kids to school. It’s just not for us. We also think teachers are fabulous people, who work hard and don’t get anywhere near enough praise. We have a few issues with the model of education in mainstream schools, that’s all.
2) You know that she’s going to be left behind and won’t get a job because she hasn’t gone to school, and she’ll end up a beggar on the streets. Right?
We look at it this way; when we think of every person we know (not just family, but every single person we know), there is around a dozen people who have started kindergarten at the mandated age, progressed through primary and secondary school, gone on to university, graduated from their degree and got a job. EVERYONE else has either, not started when they were supposed to, interrupted the progression for travel, or illness, or relocation, switched from public to private schools, switched between school and TAFE, left school as soon as they were legally allowed, not gone to uni, gone to uni but not finished their degree, changed degrees (in my case 3 times!), graduated and not worked in the field in which they studied, or graduated and gone on to collect unemployment benefits. The point is, we believe that an “educated person” is someone whose learning encompasses every facet of their lives, not just what they learn to recite in school. And people who don’t follow the straightest path, still end up as contributing and functional members of society. We do not believe school (school, not learning) is necessary to that process.
3) So, have you like, found Jesus or something?
No. We are not becoming religious fanatics who want to teach our children creation instead of science. Although we do plan to include religious studies at some point. Not only of catholicism but Buddhism and the Jewish, Muslim and Pagan faiths as well.
While we’re on the subject, we are also not turning into tree hugging hermits who want to avoid the general population while we make soap out of rendered fat and weave baskets. Nothing about our current life has changed.
4) How long do you plan on doing it? Will she ever go to school?
Who knows? Thats the short answer. We will do this for as long as Miss 5 wants to, and as long as we, her parents, are comfortable with it. What we know for now, is that we believe 5 (or even 6, 7, and 8) is too young. Too young for the expectations that go along with attending school.
We are not projecting into the future. We are taking it one year at a time. “But you’re like, not going to homeschool her through high school, though. Right?” Who knows. She’s 5. High school is a long way away. But you know what? If she wants to, and we, her parents, are comfortable with it, then yes, we probably will.
5) Have you even thought this through?
Yes. We have. Long and hard. We have questioned ourselves. Questioned each other. Questioned everything that we thought had to be done, simply because it’s the way things have always been done. We have researched methods of learning, methods of teaching, curriculums (by school, by state, and on a national level), and we have researched the pants off homeschooling and all that goes with it. We have actually thought it through more than we would have, had we decided to send her to a mainstream school – private or public? can we afford it? which school do we fall in the catchment for? Done.
After all, she is our baby, we are not going to enter into such a momentous commitment lightly.
6) Its a nice thought, but who’s got the time or patience to sit down all day doing school work?
We wont be sitting down for 7 hours a day, Monday to Friday, doing schoolwork. If we don’t agree with the model of education in a school, why would we pull our child out of school, only to mimic that model at home?
7) How are they going to learn about real life/the way the world is/to stand in line?
Yes, I have heard “homeschool children do not know how to stand in line”, to which the reply was “Unless they plan on going to prison, I don’t think that is going to be an issue” πŸ™‚
As to the other examples for this argument? She’s 5. There is plenty of time for my daughter to learn about deadlines, long hours in a place that you may or may not like, with people that you may or may not like, away from your family, not able to pursue the things that truly make you happy. She’s 5. There is plenty of time for her to find out about the judgement of others, bullying, the cruelty of cliques and “lining up”.
8) But how will she get any socialisation?
I saw a funny meme about this. It said “we socialise dogs, not children”. It made me giggle.
I guess to answer this question I need to explain the way I define being “social”. To my husband and I being social means interacting with the world and the people in it. All sexes, all ages, all religions, all races. WE believe that being at school does not necessarily teach this. Being at school teaches children to interact with their classmates, who are categorised by age. Smaller children are separated from the bigger ones, and kept separate. The only interaction they have with adults is with the handful of teachers they come in contact with, and the same ones every day. Their experience with religion and ethnicity is with whatever is popular within their postcode, and most schools will sweep any hint of sexual preference completely under the rug. I don’t believe that this is conducive to “being social”. My children interact with strangers daily. They play with children younger, older and children who are the same age. With our day to day and our travels, they are exposed to people of all races, cultures, religions and sexual orientations. They don’t have any issues talking to adults, and they are just as happy in the company of their parents as anyone else. Just because they are not going to attend school, does not mean that this will change. And before it comes up, yes, they do have friends. Good ones, who they see regularly. So they will still have birthday parties, play dates and (when they’re old enough) sleep overs.

If I had an open forum – which I do here, so I am taking advantage πŸ™‚ – I would tell my friends and family these things that relate, not to school and our decision to not send Miss 5, but to us and our family and our decision to keep her home.
There are little things that matter to me. My 5 year old will be able to eat when she’s hungry, drink when shes thirsty, go to the toilet without asking and have a nap if she gets tired. It doesn’t sound like it’s important, but the little things matter. It’s important to me to be lucky enough to offer my daughter a hot lunch, or sushi (her favourite) instead of squishy sandwiches. It’s important to me to know that my child, who is still so very small, will have enough sleep and not suffer the “after school meltdown” because the days and weeks are too long. I like the idea of not running around in the morning yelling “quick! brush your teeth! hurry up! we’re going to be late!”. I like the idea (and so does Miss 5) of doing our school work in our PJs if we want to πŸ™‚
We are going to be able to give our daughter the opportunity to pursue her interests. There are so many inspirational quotes that get thrown around, about people finding their passions and chasing them. Why shouldn’t this apply to children as well? Learning is a natural progression that stems from curiosity, interest and passion. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to know that people learn more when they’re interested. Miss 5 proved that when she was Miss 3. As a 3 year old she loved dinosaurs. She could name them, categorise them and tell you which part of the Mesozoic they came from. Her current passion is Ancient Egypt. Pursuing home education means that she wont be told “no, we’re not learning about the importance of irrigation to be able to grow crops in an arid climate (my discussion with Miss 5 over breakfast yesterday), today we’re learning about farm animals.” 😦
We are going to have time. And share time. We wont be subjected to spending only weekends and weekdays between 4 and 7 (which isn’t really quality time anyway, because she’ll be so tired and cranky after a long day at school) with our child. We get to spend all that extra time, and treasure all of that extra time. I am so very lucky and honoured to be able to share in her learning – as a mother of a dinosaur loving 3 year old I too could tell you the names, categories and time periods of the dinosaurs! I have recently been reading about hieroglyphs and the 6 components of the Wadjet! – helping her learn is also pursuing my love of learning new things. And we get to share it together. We also have the luxury of having the time to follow a subject through to its conclusion. Miss 5 will not have to worry about getting engrossed in whatever project shes pursuing, only to be told its time to pack up and move onto a different activity. Just because thats what the timetable insists on. She will also have the added benefit of one on one tuition, which is an undeniable advantage.
And finally Miss 5 will not be told to sit down and keep quiet. She is not an inactive child, who enjoys sitting still. She is an active girl who loves to move, dance, run, jump, skip, climb and twirl. She also talks. A lot. But that is how she figures things out. She learns by voicing ideas and talking about things until the discussion/questions (endless questions!)/monologue leads to that lightbulb moment. Imagine the lack of lightbulb moments my vocal child will have if she is being told to keep quiet and speak when spoken to? She can be outside in her fabulous natural wonderland, as much as she wants. Dirty and barefoot and experiencing her world with freedom, not restricted to sensible shoes and a uniform that mustn’t get dirty, and don’t climb that tree, the insurance doesn’t cover it.

So this post turned out much longer than I anticipated. In the time that it took me to write it, Miss 5 has gathered specimens (dead ants) to look at through her microscope and she has made a hobby horse for both her and Miss 2, and is currently drawing up a storyboard to make a movie about ponies! I’m under no illusions about how perfect things are going to go. We are going to have rough days, days where we get nothing done, and days where the both of us throw our hands in the air and say “it’s all too hard”. But we’re going to have those days with or without school. I think we’re going to manage just fine. πŸ™‚

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4 thoughts on “To answer your questions…”

  1. Knowing you – I know your kids will continue to grow up and be well-rounded, intelligent, thoughtful humans regardless of mainstream schooling or home schooling. If you feel passionately that you have made the right decision then I have to agree with you and support you wholly. Looking forward to seeing what wonderful learning experiences you provide for them xx

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  2. Your AWESOME! What your giving your girls is amazing! I have a child heading off to high school that I believe would do far more amazing things with his day than the daily routine of school. So leaving the age open is smartπŸ˜‰Good Job Kirbys

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  3. Just reading your blog put so much into perspective of what life will be at school for our little ones, how they will be at home after school and how structured school is.

    The memories of school came flooding back, I can remember when I was in kindergarten, my friend needed to go to the bathroom , she was told that she had to wait and a few minutes later all the kids were running as a pool of urine soaked the carpet under our bottoms. The soggy sandwiches but most importantly the bullying I felt as a child. All things you will avoid by raising an intelligent, well adjust human being, with a heart of gold.

    I praise you Belynda. You are a great teacher and have a fantastic little girl who is eager to learn beyond her years.

    You have found your calling as not only a mother but as a teacher of the world.

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